Zwishchen - The Challenging Waiting Towards the End of Pregnancy.
One of my regular prenatal yogi’s, coming up to 39 weeks pregnant were telling me how ready they were for baby to be out - she was done with pregnancy - uncomfortable, feeling very heavy and finding it very difficult to move about and do the simplest of tasks. I was telling her there is a name for this time, not in English as we don’t technically have a word to explain this period but the German’s do and we have adopted it. Introducing you to “zwischen”.
The final weeks of pregnancy are often filled with anticipation, excitement, and a touch of anxiety as expectant parents eagerly await the arrival of their baby. This period, aptly described as "zwischen,” captures the essence of that in-between time, the pause before the life altering moment when a new chapter begins and you are caring for a newborn. The following may help you understand this (often very uncomfortable) waiting time and how you can make most of this waiting game as you prepare for the birth of baby.
Zwischen means "between" or "in-between." It perfectly encapsulates the state of being expectant parents find themselves in during the final weeks of pregnancy. How to navigate and embrace the zwischen period -
Nesting: One of the most common ways expectant parents spend their zwischen time is by nesting. This involves getting the home ready for the baby's arrival, from assembling cribs to decorating the nursery. Embracing this instinctual urge to prepare can help ease anxiety and make you feel more in control.
Talk it out: It may seem not so important but the power of speaking out any feelings, concerns and worries does wonders and can really help shift low moods and anxieties. You choose who you want to speak to, someone who can hold space for you and let you speak freely without them worrying for you (not you need, another thing to worry about!) this could be your partner, a trusted friend, your doula or healthcare provider.
Self-Care: Use this time to prioritise self-care. Treat yourself to a prenatal massage, join prenatal yoga classes locally to meet other expectant mums, practice relaxation techniques, and indulge in some quiet moments. A well-rested and relaxed parent is better equipped to handle the demands of labor and caring for a newborn.
Bonding: Spend quality time with your partner. Go on dates, watch movies together, or simply enjoy each other's company. Building a strong foundation before the baby's arrival can strengthen your relationship and provide much needed emotional support during labor and beyond.
Educate Yourself: Take childbirth and parenting classes. Read books and articles about childbirth and newborn care. Knowledge is power, and feeling informed can help reduce anxiety and build confidence. I’ll share more resources for you soon.
Document the Journey: Create a pregnancy journal or scrapbook to capture this special time. Write letters to your unborn baby, take photos, and create memories that you can look back on.
Connect with Other Expectant Parents: Join local or online support groups for expectant parents. Sharing experiences, fears, and excitement with others who are going through the same period can be comforting.
Plan for the Practicalities: Make a birth plan, pack your hospital bag, and ensure all the logistical aspects are in order. Knowing you're well-prepared can alleviate stress. Again, I will share more on this soon…
Eventually, zwischen comes to an end when labour begins. It's the moment you've been waiting for, but it's important to remember that each birth experience is unique. Embrace the unpredictability and trust in your body's abilities. You can use the following birth affirmations I love to use with clients -
I trust my body, I trust my baby
I have been designed to give birth
My body knows what to do, I will surrender fully and completely
I go with the flow
I let go
The zwischen period at the end of pregnancy is a beautiful and transformative time. It's a reminder to savour the present moment, to prepare for the future, and to appreciate the journey that has brought you to this point. If you can, embrace zwischen with open arms, for it is a chapter in the story of parenthood, and soon enough, you'll be embarking on the next thrilling adventure of welcoming your baby into the world.
If you feel you are struggling with your mental and/or emotional health please do not hesitate to reach out to your Doctor, Midwife or healthcare provider. You are not alone, there are support systems in place to support you at what can be a very difficult, vulnerable time. Here are some numbers below:
If you live in the UK and are looking for extra support or advice urgently, there are a number of services you can approach:
Talk to a health professional e.g your own GP, midwife or health visitor
Go to A&E at your local hospital
Call the emergency services on 999
Call Samaritans on 116 123 (free to call and will not appear on your phone bill), or email jo@samaritans.org
Tommy’s Help and Support - you can email midwives directly at midwife@tommys.org